Signs that it is high time to move on from that job.
Hello readers. Thank you for coming back to my blog. It has been months since I have last posted anything, to be honest, I have been wanting to post for a while but had numerous difficulties - including no wifi - yes, third world problems and a few weeks ago I finally got set up with good wifi but I just couldn't find the desire to write because I have been battling with the idea of whether any of this is worth it. Blogging takes a ton of work - and right now I have a ton more than just an 8 to 5 going on. That said, here I am. Writing to you. Hoping this makes you smile and causes you to take stock and perhaps make a decision….
Towards the end of last year after 12 months in my previous role, I began feeling really bored, complacent and yearning for a real challenge at work. The excitement of working on meaningful challenges did not last long in that previous role. I found a new hobby - this blog, studied a property finance and development course but I still wanted more out of the place I spent the majority of time at - my job. So I began looking internally - for fear of jumping ship (moving to another company) in no less than 2 years like I did in the role before that! I always think that staying in a role for less than 2 years shows a lack of commitment and could possibly look bad on your CV, so I stuck it out. But to be honest, it was too easy, I was too calm, perhaps I really am the type of person that thrives in chaos, pressure and ridiculous deadlines. I am embarrassed to say that I missed all of that "abuse” as many may see it….While taking my time looking for other roles internally and other things to fill my time - my previous employer contacted me about an opportunity. Long story short, it took months to finally get there but I basically went back to my previous employer, under better terms. Only downside is - I am now based in Mozambique - where my entire family is originally from. I say downside because my whole life for years has been based in Joburg - but this is a story for another day. 4 months in, and I am so grateful that I took that leap - it was the best thing I could have ever done for myself personally, for my career and perhaps even my relationship too (time and distance really tests love!).
So given the entire full circle my career has taken in the last 3 years, I would like to share with you the sure things that lead me to leave my previous roles - bearing in mind that everyone has a bad day at work every now and then, but the below is more of a trend:
It is toxic for you. When pressure becomes too stressful, when the environment around you becomes toxic, when your health suffers, when you barely have time for anything else but work (no matter the pay cheque amount), when you dread having to go back to that place or those people for reasons you know - then honey - you gotta move on!
When it no longer excites you. You’ve become complacent, demotivated, you find your job meaningless and you are procrastinating more at work than being productive. When your role or tasks no longer challenge you or light your fire because you know you are built for better, bigger things - let me tell you - life is way too short for you to be bored. Next!
When you are constantly taken for granted. I find this is a general problem amongst women. We unconsciously allow people to treat us less than our worth - even at work! Before you know it, Mr So and So is constantly walking all over you, disrespecting you in front of others, taking credit for your work, giving you very little spotlight and opportunities to do meaningful work. Now don’t get me wrong - we are all adults here, I don’t expect people to be going around thanking you all the time for doing the necessary. But a little nudge in the right direction and simple acknowledgement goes a long way.
You vent about your job way too much. See point 1. You are consumed, even when you finally get out for drinks on a Friday after work with some pals - there’s nothing more to your life but this taxing job right now. Askies nana!
There’s no room for advancement, you feel stuck. RUN!!!! If you’re a go-getter like me, you know you are wasting time, move on to what will give you that exec role you have been working towards, don’t waste a second more.
Overall, I also found that people generally don’t like their jobs when it is misfit for them. When their role does not use their strengths and talents, and these people have to spend all day trying to be good at something they are not. How exhausting?! Life is too short to be unhappy - I encourage you to take the necessary steps to do that which sets your soul on fire.
Next time I will post about how to keep the door open when making that exit. Keeping these networks really may come in handy in future. Would you like that?